Addicted to Addictions!

So, what gets in your way??


Tom Ferry, my friend, and mentor discovered and wrote about in his book “Life By Design” four addictions that destroy more dreams, more hopes, and more lives than alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, or sex combined.?

You and I typically think of addictions as the effects of four much larger causes that are the root cause.? Here is what Tom wrote:?

The Addiction to opinions of other people. Some people are addicted to what others think about us and how others’ views of the world affect us.?

The Addiction to drama. Some people are drawn to and consumed by any event or situation that occupies their thoughts and fills their minds with negativity, which often brings attention to them in unproductive ways.?

The Addiction to the past. These people have an unhealthy attachment to events or situations that have occurred in the past. They are stuck in how things used to be.?

The Addiction to worry. This addiction is comprised of all the negative and self-defeating thoughts that make us anxious, disturbed, upset, and stressed, that hold us back in life. Of which, most of all, never come true.?

Tom shared some advice he learned from the great Mike Vance to create a path out of these addictions. Five action-provoking and life-altering questions to help me envision what’s possible. The road less traveled.?

The 5 Killer Questions!

  • What are your God-given talents?
  • Why are you here — what is your purpose??
  • How do you want to show up for others — what are your values?
  • Five years from now, how is the world experiencing you??
  • Who would you already be if you were already there??

You know I once had the opportunity to complete a workout with Jillian Michaels, America’s personal trainer. I was able to ask her what was one of the factors that lead to her breakthrough… she said:?

“Mark, once I figured out the opinions of other people, don’t pay my bills, that’s when my breakthrough began!”

Said another way, my acquaintance Dr. Daniel Amen, “the brain doctor, as I call him, challenges us to remember the 18-40-60 Rule.

  • At 18, you worry what others think about you.
  • At 40, you don’t care what others think about you.
  • At 60, you realize no one has been thinking about you at all.

People think about themselves, not you.

So true!?

As we wrap up today’s blog understanding “cause and effect” makes us stronger.

Consider this: we know the cause is an action that makes something else (the effect) happen. So what happens when:?

You become more intentional??

When you surround yourself with ambitious people?

When you keep giving fuel to the fire of your ambition??

How do you keep your motivation alive??


Believe you can, and you’re halfway there.

~? Theodore Roosevelt


About the Author
Mark is the Chief Executive Officer of JP & Associates, a rapidly growing full-service real estate brokerage. He is focused primarily on expansion and productivity. He has invested nearly 20 years in understanding the inner workings of high performing real estate agents, teams, managers, and leaders in major markets across the world. In prior assignments, he served as a Business Coach, in progressive leadership capacities for the 5th largest US-based real estate brokerage firm; in sales and customer marketing leadership capacities for a major consumer goods company; and served a stint in the US Army, Medical Service Corp. He was later recalled to active duty during the desert storm campaign.

Mark is a father of 3, lifelong learner, Spartan and adventure athlete. He earned his MBA from California State University and a Behavioral Change Certification from the National Association of Sports Medicine. A number of years ago he decided to make "One Helluva Move" and not play it safe, and since then in his spare time he has climbed the world’s tallest free-standing mountain - Kilimanjaro; completed the Spartan tri-fecta, the LA Marathon and the world-famous Iowa border to border RABGRAI ride among other crazy adventures.